I continue to see these statistics thrown around about the gendered division of household labor; how women are still doing more than their fare share of housework. This is always presented in some direct or oblique way as confirmation of that most nebulous of boogeymen: The Patriarchy. Now, as a man who has consistently done … Continue reading Ice Sculpture Maintenance and the Married Man
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Recorder
One of my favorite memories from childhood concerns recorder class in grade five. Of course, I really hated recorder lessons. Shrill noises bother me, and every kid knows the recorder is a bullshit instrument. There are no recorder bands, recorders in the orchestra, or recorder player superstars. This is one of those, “hey kids! This … Continue reading Recorder
Party Pooper
Back when I was quitting drinking (barely even out of the DTs yet), I encountered a series of enabling women who tried to drag me out to bars. What a fuckery life is! When I was drinking I couldn't get laid out of a bar if my life depended on it, but now a parade … Continue reading Party Pooper
Quality Television
It's rather interesting how much of American television is devoted to the themes of sexual assault, violent crime, incest, and the worst kinds of interpersonal backstabbing. And that's just the reality TV. The fiction gets even better. It seems you can display the most unbelievably vicious rape and snuff porn, so long as you don't … Continue reading Quality Television
What is Forgiveness?
Words are funny things. Ask a bunch of English native speakers what the word, “capricious” means, and even among those who routinely use the word correctly, you aren't going to get many who are confident in their response. Yet simpler words, used everyday by most everyone, we never question our definitions of. Love. Happy. Freedom. … Continue reading What is Forgiveness?
Beautiful Geniuses All
The “hooray for everyone,” loser cheerleading, self-esteem boosters of the interweb have been abusing our language with their, “everyone is beautiful and a genius in their own way” routine. It's downright Orwellian, and I, for one, think it's double-plus-ungood. Beauty may be subjective, but that still doesn't mean that everyone is beautiful. Some people are … Continue reading Beautiful Geniuses All
Empires in Decline
The Roman Empire didn’t come to an end because of military failures. It crumbled from within, eaten away by a rot of societal cancer. So it went for most empires. Having the strongest military in the world at the expense of the education, health, and well-being of the people is no formula for longevity.
America’s Gay Circus
It has been observed that how a society interacts with its prisoners is a measure of that society itself (Foucault?). So what does it say about the United States, that it is so committed to a penal model that obviously does not work? Clearly, the American penal system is failing in its stated purpose: rehabilitating … Continue reading America’s Gay Circus
Bitches are Assholes
“When a man is assertive, he's called an alpha-male/boss/winner. When a woman is assertive, she's called a bitch.” I have been seeing riffs on this notion for years, and its lack of nuance is pesky for me. To be clear: I have no doubt that the invective is unfairly applied to many appropriately assertive women. … Continue reading Bitches are Assholes
A Business Question
Well, alright then, Mr. Business Success Consultant with all your snappy answers for every possible scenario, tell me this: What do you do when you're giving an crucial presentation to the Board of Directors and your butt plug pops out and slides down the back of your pant leg, and you know from bitter experience … Continue reading A Business Question
Muse Vassal 